Hey guys!! I'm sorry it's been so long!! I went to a wedding this weekend so I had no time to do any writing. I'm super excited for this article because it was requested by you guys and I love writing things you want to read!!! Today I want to give advice to anyone sitting on the dating sidelines and who is trying to get in the game.
Ladies, I want you guys to be the ones making the first move. Life is too short to be waiting around. I feel like there is a big part of culture that tells girls to wait to be pursued, but honestly who has the time for that?? There's so much to be stressed about, and any unnecessary stress about guys shouldn't have to be one of those things. I know how it feels to be waiting around for a guy, because I've spent a lot of time doing it, and I know how much it sucks and how stressful it can be. Us girls shouldn't have to be the ones stressing because of a stereotype that tells us we should be the ones waiting to be asked out. Ain't nobody got time for dat!!
I know it can be scary. The fear of rejection is probably what holds us back the most. It's scary to put yourself out there knowing it may not work out. But instead of thinking about what could go wrong, let's think about what could go right. Look on the positive side. You also don't have to flat out ask "wanna be my boyfriend?" It can be intimidating to ask such a bold question, so start small. Invite him to go mini golfing with your friends, then go grab some food with him after school, and then ask him to a nicer dinner. You can start with small steps to build up your confidence and to help you decide if you really like him. Start small, because there's no pressure to rush into anything faster than what you're comfortable with.
Don't let the vibe that your feelings aren't being reciprocated hold you from asking someone out. Don't worry if it doesn't seem like they like you back. If you've been dropping hints like crazy but he doesn't acknowledge it, there's a chance he just didn't notice that you were flirting. Even when it seems like you couldn't be any more obvious, it may be going right over their heads, so take a chance and ask them.
Waiting on a guy can really mess you up. You can get stressed and worried and lonely. Sound familiar? I know it's the absolute worst, so just go for it. If you're tired of waiting, then just stop waiting and invite him to dinner. And if you never ask, you might spend a while thinking about what could have happened if you had just asked him out, so do yourself a favor and make a move. If you're struggling with confidence turn on some Beyonce and shoot him a text asking him what he's doing on Friday. The worst thing that could happen is he says no, and if that does end up happening, Beyonce will be right there waiting for you if you're upset. Don't let the fear of rejection stand in your way, because however embarrassed you may be if he says no, the feeling of waiting around and stressing is a million times worse. Just go for it, girl!! Who wouldn't want to date you anyways?
Thanks so much for reading!! See ya later! <3