Hello friends! Most of you are probably confused about the title of this post. Unhappy? Isn't this a blog about happiness and positivity? The answer to that question is yes, but we need to talk about the reciprocal. If we talk about why we're unhappy we can begin to learn how to pull ourselves out of that void and into happiness.
A lot of us are probably unhappy. It doesn't mean that we're never happy at all, but we all have times in our lives where we are feeling unhappy. It kinda sucks to be feeling like that. I'm sure anyone would choose to be happy as opposed to being unhappy. It seems like such a simple choice, right? Just choose to be happy. But we all know that's not how it goes. We know it's challenging to be happy 100% of the time. We can't just simply choose to be happy. Or can we?
SIKE!!! We can choose to be happy!! I bet you didn't see that one coming. Happiness is something that is relative. Have you ever met someone who is less fortunate than you, yet seems to be way happier with their circumstances? Although you may seem like you would be happier because societal standards imply that someone with more would be more happy, you aren't. Why not? It's because you aren't grateful for what you have, and they are.
Happiness comes down to being fulfilled, to being satisfied with what you have. When you are grateful for what you have, you aren't longing for anything else. You're simply here, living in the moment, and enjoying what you have. If you're satisfied with what you have at the current moment, you're going to be happy. You're content with your circumstances, and that allows you to fill your heart with joy.
Don't believe me? Think again. Let's think about iPhones. When the iPhone 6 came out, everyone who got it felt happy. They had the best of the best. They were satisfied with their purchase, and they felt fulfilled, And then the iPhone 7 came out. And all of a sudden everyone who used to be so satisfied with their iPhone 6 isn't anymore. Because they don't have the best of the best. They aren't satisfied with what they have. They're longing for more, and they're longing for better.
But what if we stopped feeling the need to have more? If we are just grateful for our iPhone 6; if we're grateful for everything we have, then we're going to be happy. I'm referring to material items for this. This does NOT apply to relationships. Don't settle for that aspect of your life. You deserve the best of the best and you need to be treated like the queen or king that you are. But for material items, it's okay to settle. Instead of thinking, "ugh, I only have the iPhone 6," start thinking, "WOW! I own a little box that can bring me infinite amounts of knowledge through the taps of my fingertips. I can be in contact with millions of people through this tiny device. I can access a music library that spans thousands of cultures and genres when I open an app. I can have conversations with friends who live millions of miles away by speaking into a screen-covered box..." It's a little bit harder to be unhappy with your iPhone 6 when you think about how many things it is capable of.
You can apply this to anything in your life that makes you unhappy. Unhappy that you have to drive your moms car instead of getting a brand new car? Be thankful that you have the ability to travel anywhere you would like in that fabulous little mini-van of hers. And thank your mom for letting you drive her car. She doesn't have to let you drive at all. You're privileged. But this can work for so many other things you're unhappy about? Unhappy about your role in the play, or your level on a sports team, your job, or your income? Just be happy that you even get to be a part of any of those things. You may have gotten the opportunity over someone else who may have wanted it more than you do, so be grateful for what you have and let it fulfill you.
So that unhappiness? A lot of it can come from not being satisfied. Focus on thinking about the great and fabulous things you are privileged enough to have. Be grateful for the fact that you are here, alive, in this moment. Be grateful that you live in a world filled with opportunities. Be grateful that you have the capability to spread love to everyone you meet. Spread that love and gratefulness all over everything like you spread butter (or the condiment of your choice) all over your piece of toast. Be the beautiful butter knife of LOVE, my friend!!!!
Thank you so much for reading!! See ya later! <3