Hey guys!! Before I start this post I want to make it clear that I 110% support people's decision or desire to go Greek!! It's honestly such an amazing thing to have a community of such tightly knit girls, and sororities put TONS back into their communities, which is beyond awesome. However, I do have a few problems with them, which are 1.) I can't afford a milkshake at Steak n' Shake so I definitely can't afford the room and board, 2.) if I go Greek I'll have to put my sorority letters in my insta bio which means I'll have to add the Greek keyboard to my phone which is a real inconvenience, and 3.) rush.
The first two reasons were just a joke to lighten the mood, but I'm really serious about the third one. I've started looking at colleges (junior year, baby!!), and I've been thinking a lot about whether or not I would want to join a sorority. On one hand, I know tons of people who have done or are doing Greek life, and their sorority sisters are their sisters for life. I think that would be so nice to have a group of best friends to do everything with. It would be great to have that community and bond with some amazing chicks. But on the other hand we're faced with the slight issue of actually getting into a sorority.
The thing that holds me back from wanting to go Greek is rush. I didn't really understand or know what rush was until very recently, but I learned that it's a bunch of social events where sororities can look at girls and see if they think they'd fit in with the sorority. The result? A bunch of girls thinking they aren't good enough to fit in with a certain group of girls.
I hate that. My whole goal in life and with this blog is to help girls know that they are always worthy. Always enough. And sororities just destroy that. I'd hate to have my looks and personality compared to a bunch of other girls in order to find my home for the next four years of college. The whole concept of rush just really goes against what I believe in, which is why I wouldn't want to put myself through that.
I don't want this to be a huge article complaining about Greek life, because that just wouldn't be productive. Instead I want to offer you comfort.
If you've been through rush, and been turned down, or even if you're just going through life feeling like you're not good enough for any friend group, listen to me. There is a place for you in this world. It may not be in Phi Mu, but there's somewhere waiting for you. There's this whole pressure to fit into a certain group, and at some schools it seems that if you aren't going Greek, then you aren't welcome. But that's simply not the case. You belong in this world and you were put here for a reason. And although there may be nothing you want more than to have Greek letters on every t-shirt in your closet, if that's not how things end up, you'll still be okay.
And if you're feeling discouraged about not being picked during rush-- don't let that determine your worth. Because let's face it, people can't get to know you after a few parties. Sure they can know what you look like and how you act around a certain group of people, but they don't know your heart. They can't see all the things that make you great from a 15 minute interview. They can't know all the things that make you special from some small talk about the weather. Rush determines a sorority so quickly that it's impossible to really get to know the people who are being picked. So yeah, you didn't pledge. But that doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you. That doesn't mean that you aren't good enough, or pretty enough. Because you are enough, whether the girls picking the newest additions know it or not.
Whether or not you're in a sorority, you're going to find people who will make college feel like home. They may not be the people you envisioned your 4 years with, but they're going to be great and they're going to love you for who you are and they'll see what makes you special.
Again, I have no problem with the sororities themselves. I know tons of amazing girls in them, and they do amazing things to put back into their community. They're places where millions find home, and having sorority sisters can be an amazing experience-- but you can find that awesome college lifestyle anywhere on campus. Remember that you are enough and worth wayyyyy more than the letters that may or may not appear in your insta bio.
Thanks so much for reading!! See ya later! <3