Hello loves! Today we're talking about the power and impact your words can have on someone. We're going to be talking about the good and bad of this power because I think we all have a lot of work to do with this kind of stuff (myself included). We're starting with the bad because I always prefer to end on a good note.
Words are powerful. Like, REALLY powerful. We need to understand this. What you say about someone can really resonate with them. I hate to use words like these on here because they're so negative but the words "hoe" and "slut" are really not okay. I know I'm guilty of saying things like that. I use them as a joke, but I'm beginning to understand that they aren't funny. Those words are really hurtful. You may be joking around and call someone a "hoe" and not think anything of it. But you don't know their story. And that is where we run into a problem.
We don't know what's going on in people's heads. We don't know how those words may hurt them. What seems like a joke to you may be another stab in the heart to your victim. Maybe they've been struggling with their reputation and saying that knocks them down when they're trying desperately to build themselves back up again. So don't judge anyone before you know them. Quite honestly, don't judge them even after you get to know them. Don't call someone a "slut" because their decisions are different than yours. News flash: it's not your life. You have absolutely no right to bash someone for their decisions. It's their life and they'll do what they want with it. Hopefully they're being safe with what they're doing, but it is definitely not your place to call them names or judge them simply because their decisions are less conservative than yours. You never know how much your words can hurt someone, so I advise you to choose carefully.
A lot of the problem is girls calling each other these names. But you know what happens if girls call each other "hoes" and "sluts"? Boys think it is okay to do the same. I read that the words we use influence how our society runs. If we call women terms that are degrading it makes our society think it is acceptable to degrade women. I don't know about you, but I don't really feel like backtracking on all the progress we've made for women thus far. So take terms that degrade women out of your vocabulary, even when they're meant as jokes. We don't want to influence society in a negative way. Especially us girls. Don't be the reason men think it's okay to treat you with disrespect. We have a responsibility to ending these hurtful words as well.
After the pretty harsh (#sorrynotsorry. It's important.) first half of this post, I'd like to shine light on what good things your words can do. Words can break us down, but they can also build us back up. Use your words for good. Is someone struggling with self-image? Tell them how beautiful they are. Thank people and tell them why they're needed. When you find something beautiful in someone, speak up.
Telling people good things about themselves is guaranteed to make their day 10709878478% better. This is a scientific fact. If you don't believe me, just listen to this recent study:
Yesterday one of my really good friends FaceTimed me and told me he wanted to thank me for always being nice and being there for him and others. He told me it made a difference in his day when I asked him how he was and actually wanted to know the answer to the question. That made my whole night, my whole day, my whole day today, and I can honestly say that that compliment will probably keep me going for another month or two. Those were some powerful words and I appreciate them so much. I was so joyous to know that people knew I cared about them and I was so happy to be able to share the love with everyone. It made my heart so warm. So if you have the opportunity to tell someone something good about themselves, TAKE IT. You don't know where they are at the moment, and saying just one positive thing about them might be enough to plaster a very real smile on their face for the rest of the week. SPREAD THE LOVE MAN!!!!
In conclusion, words are powerful. Use them for good. If saying something would make your momma have to wash your mouth out with a bar of soap, DON'T SAY IT. Be nice to people. It cost you $0.00 to keep the mean comments inside and bring the nice ones out into the world. Trust me, you're going to want to be remembered as the person who made everyone smile instead of the one who made everyone feel horrible. Don't be mean. Spread love and you will receive it back.
Thank you so much for reading!! See ya later! <3