Hello beautiful!! As you can tell from the title, this post is basically just going to be me telling you all kinds of good things about yourself. Before I start I just want to encourage you to share this with your friends if it helped you. This isn't a self-promo thing, I promise, but if you find something in here that helps you, chances are there's someone else out there who needs to hear the same thing!! Life is tough and so we should do everything we can to help each other and build each other up. You never know who is in need of hearing something kind.
Today I was in ballet and I started to get really self conscious. I don't particularly enjoy ballet, not because I don't like the dance style, but because I don't like the way it makes me feel about myself. We have to wear leotards so I can always tell if I ate more than I should have that day, and there are mirrors all around the room which can really end up showing you your every flaw. I guess I had just been having an emotional day but I just was not feeling myself and was not in the mood to have to stare at myself in the mirror for 2 hours and think about how I really should be eating better and doing more to help my skin and how I should really learn how to do my makeup to last the full day and how I need to get more sleep in order to not look like I just got hit by a bus.
Towards the end of the class, I snapped out of it and I realized I didn't need to be thinking about myself like this, and I thought, "hey!! Let's write a blog post about this!!" I started thinking about how the whole reason I have this blog and the whole reason I write is to try and help girls know that they are beautiful, worthy, valuable, enough and loved. I realized I hadn't written a specific blog post about just that in a hot second, so here we are.
I want to assure you that you are beautiful. It's so easy to look at someone else and think, oh I wish I looked like that. It's so easy to pick yourself apart and to believe that if you don't look like someone that you think is beautiful, then you aren't beautiful. But that is simply not the case. One woman's beauty is not the absence of your own. Both of you can exist beautifully and differently. For example, I really think flowers are beautiful and I really think that calligraphy and fancy journal things are beautiful, but when I see a pretty journal I don't think, well, that's a nice journal but it's just not a flower. Because that would be ridiculous, right?
But we do that everyday. We see people's beautiful features and assume that if we don't share the same features then we must not be beautiful. But I assure you that you were crafted to look the way that you do. Your differences are what make you beautiful. Its your flaws and your imperfections that make you interesting to look at. No one wants to look at a bunch of people that look exactly the same. You were created to be and look unique. Since we can't change our differences, we may as well embrace them, because they're freaking awesome and life is way too short to be comparing yourself to others.
I also want to let you know that you are worthy, and no one can take that away from you. I was reading the sun and her flowers by rupi kaur and I came across a poem that said, "worth is not something we transfer." Nothing can take aways your worth. Nothing. Not your past mistakes or your regrets or the boy you went a little too far with. Nothing. Worth is not transferrable. It's something we are all born with. It's sort of like a little hidden gift we came into the world with. It takes a little bit of time to find, but once you find it, you can never forget it. Sure we may misplace that gift every once in a while, but we're always going to find our way back to it, because once you feel what it's like to know your worth, you won't ever give that up.
You are also worthy and deserving of any opportunity that comes your way. A lot of times we turn things down or close doors because we claim we don't deserve something, which is just crazy. Take any opportunity that is offered to you, and work hard to gain some extra ones. Your past is not a measurement or standard for what you deserve. Yes, some people are born with privilege, but even if you aren't, you still deserve the same things they do. Your past is in no way a limit to what you're worth and what you deserve.
You are enough. You are enough when you make JV instead of varsity, and you're enough when you're failing a class. You're enough when he leaves you on read and you're enough when your parents are fighting again. Never question whether you were enough for someone. I know this is such a common feeling when someone is going through a breakup or their parents are getting divorced. It's hard stuff, no doubt about it, but you should never question or assume that the reason something is happening is because you weren't enough. You are so enough I can't even describe it.
Girl, you got this. Life is tough. But you were born with the skills you need to handle the hard situations. We're all going to struggle with body image and self-worth, but when those feelings start to overwhelm you, take a step back and remember that you are here with reason and purpose behind your creation. You are capable of making a difference, and you can do so with beauty and grace behind it all. You are so loved and your life is so worth living. Never forget that. If you're struggling with anything and feel like it's too pressing to deal with on your own, talk to someone. It's scary and weird and hard, but people help people. Us girls need to bond together and support one another. If you need me, I'll always be here and you can contact me through all of my social media (which you can find on the very bottom of this post), the comments on this post, or a blog request form if you need some advice on something more specific. Remember that you are always so loved, especially by the family you have through this blog. Remember to share this if you feel like it can help someone :)
I love you guys to the moon and back and I hope this helps you remember how amazing you are. Take a little bit of time out of your day to love on yourself and be reminded of all the good things you bring to the table.
Thank you so much for reading!! See ya later! <3