Hello, my lovely friends! Today we're going to be talking a little bit about social media and the image people put out with their profiles!
I'm on spring break right now, so obviously EVERYBODY is posting pictures at the beach while I'm stuck here at home. It feels like I'm the only one left at home while everyone is out having a way better time than I am. It kinda sucked but then I realized, "hey I'm actually having a good time at home. I'm hanging out with friends and doing things I love." Then why am I feeling so... lame?
I'm sure that without social media I wouldn't be feeling down about my spring break plans. It's not that I'm not having fun, it's just that others seem to be having more fun than me. Their Instagram posts are cuter, they're tanner, and they're smiling more than I am.
But here's the thing guys: social media isn't real. It's not. I'm starting to feel a little better after realizing that. All those posts aren't what their real lives are like. All those people aren't having this great adventure without you. Maybe some of them are, but most people just captured a nice picture, put a pretty filter on it, and posted it with a cute caption. Those pictures aren't an accurate reflection of their trip. It's probably not going perfectly, and that's okay. I can get pretty discouraged scrolling through my feed and seeing everyone who has cuter, nicer, more adventurous, and better lives than I'm living.
Guys, that's not actually the case. Those "perfect" people we see on Instagram aren't perfect. That's okay. No one is. Some people's profiles don't match their real lives (you know, the girl who preaches about positivity on social media, but has never said a kind word to you in person? Yeah, her). Although it can be annoying, I understand why people do it.
We all have messy parts of our lives. Things we don't want the whole world to know. Are we going to go put those all over our social media? Probably not. Social media isn't about your real life. It's pretty fake. Social media is all about image. Stalk one person's feed, and I bet you'll figure out what image they're trying to portray. It's probably different from how they are in real life. We use our profiles to build up some sort of character; a better version of ourselves. I don't think this is necessarily a bad thing. We all do it. I know I do. I enjoy editing pictures so that my feed looks cohesive. Is that bad? No, it's something I enjoy doing, and that's fine.
It may turn out bad if you begin to believe someone's image. A lot of times we'll convince ourselves that a person is exactly the way they say they are on social media. That's when we start getting into the negative self-talk. We wish our life was always as good as someone else's Instagram highlight reel. We don't have the perfect lives we all pretend to have on Instagram, but that doesn't mean our life is bad. Always keep in mind that social media is an image, a brand, a promotion for a better you. It's not real.
With that being said, if you want to create an image for yourself, go ahead. It can be fun, just don't get too worked up about it. Social media is meant for the owner of the profile, and it doesn't matter how many people like your picture, as long as YOU like it. I've seen some of my most beautiful friends FREAK out about which picture others would like better, or which would get more likes, or which edit looks better, or what time they should post at. On the inside that broke my heart a little. I was like, "UM HELLO?!?! YOU'RE LITERALLY SUCH A BEAUTIFUL HUMAN, AND WHY DO YOU CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA?? LIKES DON'T MATTER. ACTUAL REAL LOVE FROM ACTUAL REAL PEOPLE IS WHAT MATTERS. DON'T STRESS OVER SOMETHING SO SMALL!!!!!!!!!!!!" So anyways, whatever you're doing on social media, do it for yourself, because it is YOUR account, not your follower's. And, for the love of God, keep your social media appropriate. I don't care if I sound like a parent: what you do now affects your life forever. You can't delete stuff completely once it's posted or sent. Colleges look at all your social media, and you don't want your Twitter or Instagram profile to be the thing that keeps you from your dream college. If you're responsible enough to have a social media account, you're responsible enough to use it appropriately and respectfully.
ANYWAYS, I went on many tangents, but I have a ton of thoughts on social media. I think it's something great that is often misused and can unfortunately lead to a lot of negative outcomes. Fortunately for me, I have an excellent mother who teaches me about the dangers of social media, and as much as I complain through our conversations, I'm super thankful for them. I know not everyone has these talks with adults to help you, so hopefully I can help you guys and spread my knowledge. I know, I know, you don't want to hear it, but it's important, and you need to know. Plus, I feel like I'm the mom of this community and all the readers are my little babies that I'm giving valuable life advice and wisdom to. I promise, you'll thank me later. :)
Thanks so much for reading!! See ya later! <3