i know we've all heard a million times about how we're in charge of our own lives and how we should go out and seize the day and build our huge dreams brick by brick until we're basking in the light of our own wonderful futures. and while that can all be a true, a lot of times it just sounds like a bunch of crap that's meant to inspire us but doesn't actually give us any real direction.
i've seen something on pinterest more than a few times about how when you're trying to create a better future, you should write down where you want to be in 6 months (or a year; 5 years; 10 years). i've learned that when making these lists you should "get real specific," and though i believe in manifestation and goals and visualization, i also know there's no way i'm going to write down and plan out every moment in my life because i know by next tuesday half of it will probably have changed and i'll have to make another detailed list, and then another, and another, and another.
so instead, i will continue to visualize my future in my brain and on my thoughtfully curated pinterest boards, and remain focused in on the small moments and feelings. for me, the plans and visions for the future change constantly but i know for a fact that wherever i'll end up, i'm going to want to be happy. this seems blatantly obvious, but is often missing when put into practice. how many times have i put myself through a miserable situation, thinking it was something i wanted? how many times have you done that?
sometimes the tradeoff is better than the sacrifice, but i think the key to having power over your life is focusing on the good and trying to intensify it, while also recognizing the bad and working on toning it down. what's most important is all the little things that happen between the big life events. ask yourself questions while you're immersed in different things: do you like the people you're with? do you feel good about yourself? are you able to act like yourself? do you feel fulfilled? is this experience adding something positive to your life? what are you learning?
while this may seem like a bombardment of questions, the answers usually come pretty quickly. pay attention to your answers and reserve more time to the answers you like, and find ways to change the bad answers; whether that means putting a spin on the situation or dropping it all together.
you only have one life. unless you believe in multiple lives, then you have more than one, but for the sake of my point, know that you are in control over your little moments. make them count and make them good ones. you have the power when it comes to creating a life you feel fulfilled living in.