Good evening friends!! Or good morning, or good afternoon... I'm not sure when you'll read this. Today I want to talk about Perks of Being a Wallflower, which is a really good book I read recently by Stephen Chbosky. I'm not going to spoil the book incase you haven't read it yet, but I want to talk about the messages and themes and that sort of stuff (sorry if this is too "nerdy" for you, but this book has some seriously good things to talk about).
Ok guys, this was one of those books where you're kind of changed after. I don't know if anyone else has had an experience like that, but this book really impacted me. Its one of those books where you need to put it down for a second and question your life. I finished it and I just took a second to sit back, because it made me wonder if I was living my life the way I should. For the record, the kids in the book engage in a lot of illegal activities, and that is not what I'm referring too. At the end of the book one of the characters tells the protagonist something really meaningful, and THAT is what I am referring to.
First a little bit of background information on the book: This book is written in letter format. The main character Charlie writes a series of letters to someone who is not a character in the book. You never even figure out who the person receiving the letters is. I suppose maybe the reader is supposed to be the person Charlie is writing to. Anyways, Charlie is basically writing to this person and sharing about his high school experience. His friends and teachers are constantly telling Charlie that he needs to "participate" more in life. He ends up falling in love with another one of the characters (who will remain nameless so I don't spoil the book). At the end of the book, he tells the girl that he loves her. And she responds with this:
"'Charlie, don't you get it? I can't feel that. It's sweet and everything, but it's like you're not even there sometimes. It's great that you can listen and be a shoulder to someone, but what about when someone doesn't need a shoulder. What if they need the arms or something like that? You can't just sit there and put everybody's life ahead of yours and think that counts as love. You just can't. You have to do things.'"
Guys, this quote had me SHOOK. I was inspired and shocked about how relevant it is to my life. Often times I find that I'm scared to tell people how I really feel. Sometimes I'm scared to do something I want to do because I'm scared that people won't like what I'm doing. But this helped me realize that WE HAVE GOT TO STOP LIVING IN FEAR. If we're living in fear, we are never going to do the things we want to do. I never realized how much fear has stopped me from experiencing what I want to experience. I realize now that I need to stop worrying so much about the bad things that could happen. Of course, I will take the necessary precautions, but I can't keep holding on to my fear of what could go wrong. I think I'm trying to protect myself and my heart by not taking these risks, but I'm beginning to realize that sometimes by trying to protect myself, I'm really hurting myself because of limitations I'm putting on myself.
So I'm encouraging myself and you guys to stop living in fear. Put your fear behind you, or put your fear on God, if that is what you believe in. Don't let yourself hold you back.
I think this goes for feelings too. Often times I don't share what I'm feeling, because I'm too scared I'll bother someone with how I'm really feeling, or I'm scared of judgement for what I'm feeling. But most of all, I think I'm scared of rejection. Relating back to the aspect of love, it's so scary for me to tell a guy how I feel about him. I'm scared that they won't return the feelings, or that they'll laugh at me, or that it will be awkward if I tell them how I really feel. But wouldn't it just be better for me to talk to them so I could know if they feel the same way? That would be much better then living without knowing. Or I could just make a move myself, and if they return it, then I would know. I need to stop living in fear and in a state of unknowingness (is that a word?).
I'm encouraging you and myself to GET OUT THERE. Do what you want to do. Tell people how you feel. Instead of being scared of what could go wrong, hope for the best, and see what happens. Maybe it will work out. Maybe it won't. But either way, you'll have gone outside of your comfort zone. You'll have tried something new. And you'll have done something difficult. And no matter the outcome, that is something to be proud of.
This is probably the most personal I've ever gotten in one of these posts, but hopefully at least one person is inspired. Or at least is beginning to think about the world in a slightly different way.
Thank you for reading! See ya later! <3 (p.s. PLEASE read Perks of Being a Wallflower)