Hello my lovelies!! It’s been a while since I’ve done a Monday Motivation, or really any blog post for that matter. The reason? I simply wasn’t motivated.
It’s ironic that I’m writing a post about motivation when I’m unmotivated, but that’s what we’re doing today!! I’m going to talk about why I wasn’t motivated and then I’m going to flip it around and talk about how I got back to doing what I needed to be doing.
In short, I was burnt out. Honestly, I still kind of am, but we’re working on it. It’s junior year of high school for me, and everyone knows that that’s when it starts getting crazyyyyyy. It’s the most workload I’ve ever had, there’s college tours, SAT and ACT prep…. the complete works. I ended up at a point where I just hated everything. I hated school, I hated the activities I used to love, and on some days I just didn’t even like my friends. I felt like I was working my butt off constantly but the reward never came so I just… stopped. I didn’t give up entirely but I definitely began to care less about all the things I had to be doing. I know it probably barely scratches the surface of what some people are going through, but it was a rough patch for me and I basically just wasn’t as happy as I used to be.
So what changed?
In short, it was change that made a change in my life. It sounds like a catch 22, but let me explain.
I decided I needed to make some changes in my life in order to get back to where I wanted to be. I started out by changing around the relationships I had, branching out, and making new friends. I changed the lunch table I sit at. I started trying to spend less time on my phone during downtime in class and started spending more time trying to actively engage with the people in my class. I was introduced to friends of friends and I formed new relationships with them and I could not be happier with where I am with the people in my life. But how did this change how motivated I was for things like school?
Well, let me tell you!! A lot of my closest friends (new and old) don’t go to the same school that I go to, which means I need to put more effort into those relationships. The fact that I can’t see some of my other friends as often as I see my school friends, forces me to be more motivated to get everything done quickly so I can have more time to spend time with them. This means I work faster and more efficiently, and I procrastinate (semi) less.
The changes in friendships I’ve had over these past few weeks have been ones that push me to be a better person and more intentional with my time. I’m more motivated to be the best I can be around my friends because I can see that all of them are amazing people and I want to match their energy and enthusiasm for life. I wrote a whole blog post on finding friends who push you to be better and how to get rid of the ones that are only bringing you down, but in short, just surround yourself with people who motivate you to be the best possible version of yourself (& still love you even when you fall short!!) and who make you excited to wake up every morning.
Balance has also recently inspired me and helped me to become a little more pumped about life. I’ve learned how to find the happy medium between working hard and resting. Like I said, I’ve been pretty burned out this year, but this semester I’ve decided to take it a little easier on myself and remember that it is okay and needed to prioritize myself and the things I enjoy over my “obligations” (school, extracurriculars, etc.) It’s helped me avoid the feeling of pure exhaustion and burnout I used to have all the time. I’m thinking of doing a whole blog post on this (let me know if you want to see it), so I’ll leave it at that for today.
These past two things have mostly been a little life update sort of thing, but the biggest thing that I want to talk the most about is getting re-inspired. Lately I’ve felt like I’ve been working towards a goal and it ends up leaving me so tired and beaten down that I can’t remember why I chose to embark upon it in the first place. Sooo I needed to remind myself of the reason why I was working towards certain goals. I’ve been getting pretty stressed about college and I started wondering why I was working so hard and spending so much time in school preparing for classes I don’t even like just so I can continue with yet another 4 years of school. But today I went on a college tour and I was super psyched about it and I just thought, this is it!!! This is why I’m working so hard in freakin’ AP Calc!! So I can go to a school I absolutely love and thrive at it. I had also kind of lost motivation for the things I used to love like journalling, bible study, and blogging, so I found new ways to spice it up. I did bible study with my friends to make it more enjoyable. My beautiful friend Blaney (who is also responsible taking the INCREDIBLE pics that make my blog look a little nicer) got me a brand new, beautiful journal and I’m super inspired to write in it because come on, it’s beautiful. I started changing around my life and focusing on things that could inspire me to write some new blog posts for you guys (just like this one).
So mainly what this boils down to is taking a breath and allowing yourself to get re-inspired. Reflect on why you started on goals that seem like a burden to finish. Spend more time with the people that push you and motivate you to be better. Smile more and take in what the world has to offer. It can be so easy to get caught up in the hustle of life, and we can become immune to finding motivation. So make some changes. If you’re stuck on why you’re doing so much SAT prep, Google the school you’re working to get into and remind yourself of why you want to go there. If you can’t start eating healthy because that ice cream in the freezer just looks tooooo good, then stop buying ice cream that can be on hand (and devoured) within seconds. If you can’t bring yourself to study for your Physics test, grab a friend and head over to Starbucks to work on it together. Remember that it’s good to be balanced between having fun and working hard and crushing your goals. Find ways to incorporate the two and you’ll have a much easier time avoiding burnout and it’ll make you dread the things you have to do a whole lot less when you’re able to make them fun.
This is just a little something that will hopefully keep you motivated to continue crushing your goals and remembering why you started on what you’re working towards. You are fully capable accomplishing whatever you want to in life, so let yourself believe that truth and get out there and kill it!!! And remember to let yourself live a little and have fun with whatever you’re doing, because life is short and you gotta enjoy it and live it to your full potential!!
Here’s my beautiful journal from Blaney!! Tell me this isn’t gorgeous!!
Thanks so so much for reading!! See ya later! <3