I think a lot of us get stuck with the idea of growth. We get frustrated when we don't see results immediately. We hate when things in school don't click instantly. We hate when our relationships don't come immediately. And we especially hate when we do one crunch and our flawless abs still. aren't. there. Jokes aside though, we really want results immediately, but it just doesn't happen like that.
I've been struggling with that a lot. I've been struggling with body image and with putting effort into the things and people I care about. But the point is not me, the point is figuring out how to push through the struggles and the frustration of not being where you want to be. Last night I was reading Rupi Kaur's new book, the sun and her flowers, and I found this poem:
Wow, guys. WOW. That really puts things in perspective. Growth is a process. I think we tend to forget that a lot. It can be hard when we're so goal-driven that we don't even take time to appreciate what we're doing and the progress that we are making. Don't get me wrong, it's great and necessary to have goals. But I think we forget that there is meaning behind the process of achieving the goal. We spend so much time focusing on seeing the end result. We only think about how our body will look in that one outfit and forget to think about how much work we put in to get there.
We need to start focusing on the process. We need to appreciate the hard work we put in to achieve our goals, because behind every good grade there's the hours of studying, behind every successful relationship there's supporting each other even in the darkest of days, and behind every beach pic on Insta is weeks of healthy eating and hitting the gym.
But we've stopped focusing on these things. We're so concerned with the end destination that we forget to focus on the journey.
The problem with focusing on the end result is that we'll never really reach it. We could always be stronger. We could always be better in our relationships. Our grades could always be better. And while it's great to strive to be better, we should focus on the process of getting to this "better place."
Our lives need to be lived with "The Climb" by Miley Cyrus streaming in the background. Life is going to be so much more beautiful and fulfilling if we're thinking about our growth. The majority of our life is spent on growth, and not on our end result. So appreciate your process. Appreciate your growth. Appreciate where you are, and appreciate where you're going, but don't compare the two.
From the wise words of Sara Bareilles, "Compare where you are to where you want to be and you'll get nowhere." Don't focus so much on where you're going, and pay a little more attention to how you're getting there.
I hope these words help you take the pressure off of yourself and help encourage you to just sit back and enjoy the ride. And let's cultivate a little more self-love for our growth and process along the way.