Hey guys!! My friend Charlotte requested this post, and I'm excited to talk about it because it's so relevant. It's something so many people struggle with, including myself. We struggle with feeling sorry for ourselves so much because as much as it sucks, it's just way easier to see the bad in a situation as opposed to trying to find something positive.
It's easy to think that your life sucks and that no one is going through what you're going through. I'll save the whole there-are-people-in-this-world-who-are-off-way-worse-than-you-and-you-should-be-thankful-for-what-you-have spiel, because even though it's true, your problems are still relevant. We can't pretend that we don't get annoyed when our phone malfunctions and deletes all of our pictures for the 27th time, and we can't pretend a rough relationship with a parent isn't upsetting. Yes, they clearly aren't as bad as not knowing where your next meal is coming from or if you'll finally find some clean drinking water, but they're still the set of problems you're stuck with. First world problems, nonetheless, but still problems.
So everyone is suffering from something, may it be big or small, and when that happens it's easy to start feeling sorry for yourself. When this happens, think about what you're being put through. What's the worst that could happen? Are you going to die because you don't have good cell service? Probably not. Yeah, there's no doubt that it's frustrating, but there's really not anything too horrible that could come out of the situation.
Instead of focusing on everything that sucks about the situation, think about what good the situation brings. If your phone doesn't have service, start enjoying the world around you. Look at the actual outdoors instead of the outdoors in everyone's Insta picture. If you broke a bone and can't go to practice anymore, take that new free time to relax, hang out with friends, or go to bed at a somewhat reasonable hour.
It's really easy to slip into a mindset where you think that nothing good can come into your life. Trust me, I've been there. But it's not really too fabulous of a place to be hanging out. I prefer to actually be enjoying my life instead of thinking about how much it's falling apart.
Your friends can also really affect your mindset. If you're hanging out with people who only ever talk about bad things, you're just going to stay feeling sorry for yourself. You also might be that person for others. I know I can definitely be that person when I'm in a bad mood. Instead, find positive people, and go to them when you have a problem. Don't go to the person who will agree with you when you tell them that nothing is going right. Go to the people who will immediately jump up and give you a list of good things to be grateful for.
You can be that person for others as well. I notice that it's easier for me to think about my own life more positively when I'm helping people do the same. Be a light in people's lives. Be the person people go to when they need to be uplifted, and you'll find you'll soon be that person for yourself. Helping others helps you help yourself.
To sum it up: Be a light. Help people. Help yourself. Find people who help you help yourself. Put it in perspective. Nothing is nearly as bad as it seems.
Thank you so much for reading!! See ya later! <3