Hey guys!! I hope everyone is having a great day! Today we're going to be talking about how to get over someone. This can be for breakups or for when you and a friend have grown apart. Both kinds of breakups are really difficult and I know it can be a hard process, but I promise you that you can get through it.
The hardest part is right after the breakup. It can be a really emotional time. As hard as it is, you have to let yourself go through those emotions. You have to process them before you can move on. This might bring along a lot of tears, but I promise it will be okay. Just let yourself feel what you're feeling. You really don't have to pretend to be okay when you're not, so just grab some Ben & Jerry's and your fave chick flick and give yourself some time.
Healing does take time, but you do need to get back on your feet eventually. Give yourself like a week of time to be sad, but then make your best efforts to get back up. Obviously emotions can still hit after only a week, but it's important to get yourself back up and not let them get the best of you.
Once you're ready to get back in the game, pour as much love and effort into yourself as you possibly can. Take care of yourself. Spend time loving yourself. Listen to your body and give it what it needs. It's not selfish to focus on yourself. It's actually so important and needed. Give yourself what you need, and don't feel guilty about it. I know a lot of people who have gotten out of an unhealthy relationship and realized that they haven't been spending as much time loving themselves as they should. If this is the case, you have to give yourself some extra love because you really freaking deserve it. Self love and care is especially important during tough times.
The next thing is to spend a lot of time working on your other relationships. Looking on the bright side, if someone isn't as present in your life as they used to be, that just frees up more time and effort to spend with others! Go out for coffee with the old friend you haven't seen in forever. Reach out to that one girl who always comments on your Instagram posts. Help your parents make dinner. Call your grandma. Binge watch Netflix with your older brother.
Whether you've lost your boyfriend or your best friend, it can be hard to remember that they're not the only person in your life. We all have our go-to person, and when they're no longer there for you, it can make you feel really alone. It's important to remember that there are so many other people you can turn to. You are never alone. There's always someone you can reach out to. Although you may not be as close with someone new right now, that doesn't mean you won't get closer in the future. You just need to put effort into the relationship. It may not be the same as it was with the person you're getting over, but different doesn't mean bad, and they can still be an amazing person to have in your life.
There's always someone out there for you. You just need to reach out to them. When a relationship ends, just think of it as an opportunity to make new ones. And if you're not going through a breakup-- reach out to someone who is. If you've been there before, you know how hard it is. Don't let anyone go through that alone. A quick text or invitation to grab lunch might be just the thing they need to get through the tough times. We gotta bond together and help people get through the tough times. Just as you would want someone there for you when you're going through something rough, be that person for someone else.
Life can be tricky, but it's much easier when we're doing it together. Remember that there's always someone who will be there for you-- so don't be afraid to reach out to people. And you can always come to me with any problem, no matter what! I'm here to help, so hit me up and I would be so happy to help you with whatever you're going through, big or small. You got this, girl! Now go grab some coffee with your new bff-to-be. :)
Thanks for reading!! See ya later! <3