Hey guys!! I'm guessing this title really succeeded in getting your attention. The truth is, I can't guarantee that after reading this someone is going to be standing on your doorstep with a rose asking you to go out with them. I can't guarantee anything, BUT I can highly increase your chances of finding some love. I promise this isn't a scam.
So, if you don't already know, I'm really obsessed with Andy Stanley. He's a pastor at some of the churches in my area, and he hosts the show Your Move, which I'm obsessed with. He has a book called The New Rules For Love, Sex & Dating. My boyfriend is reading it for his small group and gave it to me to read over Spring Break. I'm only 50 pages in, but this book is filled with some solid knowledge. I recommend that you all read it.
Now, back to where this connects to what this blog post is about. One of the chapters is about finding the "right person." I bet we all have ideas of what our "right person" is. Our list of qualifications for the "right person" probably has everything from physical aspects, to personality traits, lifestyle choices, and maybe even religion. It may seem like it's impossible to find someone who fits everything we want. Or maybe we find our perfect match, but they don't like us back. Anyone else been there before?
So the goal would make our "right person" think that we are their "right person," right?
But have we looked at our own selves? Our perfect person probably wants the same things we want. But do we qualify to match up with their lists? Let's rewind. That probably made no sense. Like we said earlier, we all have lists of what we want in a person. That person also has a list, and it's likely pretty close to your list. But if he fits your list, why doesn't he like you?
Chances are, you don't fit your own list. In order to be with your right person, you have to become the right person. This obviously doesn't apply to physical characteristics. Please don't dye your hair blond because you prefer blond guys. I'm talking about the personality traits and other characteristics. If you're looking for a man who is selfless, then you yourself need to be selfless. If sharing the same faith is important to you, then make sure you're keeping up with your faith. It's likely that we don't totally match up to our own lists. Before we start trying to find this "right person," we need to become the right person.
You're probably wondering, "Anna, how the heck is this going to get me a boyfriend/girlfriend????," and rightly so. But, if you become the person you're looking for, you're going to attract the person you're looking for. Think about it: say you're looking for someone who volunteers at an animal shelter. If you become the person you want to be, you'll begin to start volunteering at an animal shelter. You know who else is volunteering at the animal shelter? Your dream man, a.k.a your right person. If you rearrange your priorities, you're going to start coming in contact with people who have your same priorities.
So take your eyes of the goal of finding the right person, and start focusing on BECOMING the right person. Although this can't guarantee anything, it's going to be way more likely that you end up finding exactly what you're looking for.
Thanks so much for reading!! See ya later <3
(p.s. thank you SO, SO, SO much to Andy Stanley for providing me with the wisdom I needed to write this post. Buy his book. I'll link it below. I'm serious. It's worth it. This is not a promo. Click on the button.)