Hello my beautiful people!! Today's post was a requested one and I'm really excited to talk about it! For some reason I've always been a pretty forgiving person, so hopefully I can share something good with you guys!!
Before we start talking about forgiveness we need to realize that there's a difference between being forgiving and letting people walk all over you. The difference is that one protects your heart and one hurts it. So forgiving someone for something they did is good, but when it harms you they're walking all over you. It's kind of a sad example, but you can forgive your boyfriend for cheating on you, but if you stay with him after he does you're letting him walk all over your feelings and your heart.
It's pretty easy to forgive people for small things or after you've had time to heal. For example, you're probably not still mad at the girl who stole your mechanical pencil last year, and you've probably made peace with the fight you and your ex-best friend had in 4th grade. But what's harder to forgive is the bigger, heavier, recent stuff.
Forgiveness is hard, but so is not forgiving. It takes a ton of strength to be the bigger person and let something difficult pass you by. But have you ever noticed how you feel when you're busy not forgiving someone? I bet I can guess you feel angry all the time, your heart hurts, you're exhausted and negative. That's because it takes a heck of a lot more effort to stay mad at someone than it does to forgive them. It seems like it wouldn't be the case if you're in a place where you haven't forgiven someone and can imagine how hard it'll be to forgive them. Don't get me wrong-- it'll take a lot of effort to forgive them. But that's all short term effort that pales in comparison to the long term exhaustion that comes with holding a grudge for a while.
The best thing I can say is to forgive someone for yourself. Forgive them even when they may not necessarily deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve the freedom that comes with forgiveness. You deserve the peace that you'll have when you don't have to worry about holding up a wall that blocks someone from forgiveness. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to move on from whatever happened. Without forgiving someone you're trapped in this struggle of letting what someone did to you be what defines with you.
So forgive to help yourself. Forgive to give your heart some peace. Just choose to let go of it. It'll be hard and it may take a while. If you don't believe that someone deserves to be forgiven, turn it around and ask yourself, "Do I deserve to be bearing the burden of not forgiving?" The answer is no, so forgive someone because that's a weight on your shoulders that you do not need to be carrying around.
Thanks so much for reading!! See ya later! <3