Hello guys and gals!! Today I want to talk about how to channel anger in a more positive way. This is something I struggle with a lot. I struggled a lot with it in the fall because of all the tension that came along with the presidential election, and I struggled a lot this summer with some of my friends. My phone has always made it so hard for me to handle anger. When I was angry, I would instantly turn to Twitter, my finsta, or a nasty text. None of that ended well. I figured if I'm struggling with it, someone else has to be too, so I decided I'd blog about it!! Today I'm going to share a better way to handle anger that you and I can start to use when feelings of frustration start to creep up on us.
First, channel your anger positively. I know that when I'm mad, I need to let myself be mad. It makes me mad when I'm angry and someone instantly tries to help me fix it. I need a second to just feel the emotion I'm feeling at the moment before I can move on. But we should handle the frustration in a non-damaging way, This means putting the phone DOWN, because that can really only lead to bad. Instead, make a list of everything that makes you mad, grab coffee with a friend to rage about it, or talk to your mom. I rage to my mom all the time and we've actually formed a pretty good relationship over our rage sessions.
The second thing to do is breathe. When I get mad, I get super tense and I totally forget that breathing is something humans need to do. So close your eyes, breathe in and breathe out. Relax your body when you breathe out, and just take a quick second to recenter yourself.
When you feel like you're done being angry and are ready to move on, figure out how to resolve the situation. Think of ways to solve a problem if you're having one. Try to find a positive way to resolve the situation. Talk to a friend if you need to. DM me on Instagram (@finding.something.beautiful), because I'm always down to talk whether you know me personally or not. Remember that your goal is to make the situation BETTER, so make sure your solution doesn't make things worse.
The main point of this post is to take a second to control your anger before you do something you regret. Trust me, I've learned the hard way that it's better to step back for a second than to lash out on someone. Break away from the problem, step back from your phone, give yourself a second or two to process your emotions, breathe, and then come back to the problem. I hope this helps you guys channel your negative emotions more positively!
Thank you so much for reading!! See ya later! <3