Hi guys! It's been a little while since we've been together! Earlier today I was thinking about how it's been a while since I've updated my blog (and I've really been slacking on the Daily Challenges page). When I realized that I've been slacking on here I thought, well it's okay I've been really busy lately. But even as I told myself that, I knew that it was a lame excuse. I enjoy blogging, and I know I should be making time for it. So based on that experience, I'm going to talk about how to find some calm in your life everyday.
We have a lot of things we need to do. Most of us are either in school or have a job (or both!) and those things take up a ton of time. Besides the actual time spent at school or your job, you most likely have to work on stuff when you get home. We never stop working and we're in a constant cycle of tasks. Some people enjoy this, but for a lot of us it can get really tiring and difficult. I find that I'm often so focused on the things I need to do that I forget to focus on my actual self. My brain can get so hardwired to just keep on working and it never stops, even when I go to bed. I don't know about you, but I don't really love that. It can help when I need to be motivated, but a lot of times it just really wears me out. I often go a whole day without even checking in on how I'm doing. I've realized this a lot recently so I want to take you through a routine that can help you get in tune with the things that are going on in your head. It might seem cheesy but it will help a lot.
First find a somewhat quiet place. Turn your music or any other sounds off for a second so you can fully listen to yourself think. Close your eyes and take some deep breaths. I know that sounds so dumb, but once you do it you'll notice an instant change. Take as many as you need to get in a good space. After you breathe, do a quick scan of your body. Notice if anything hurts, or if you're holding any tension anywhere. If you're anything like me, you probably hold a ton of tension in your shoulders, so relax them. After getting in tune with your physical body, check out your emotions. Are you stressed? Sad? Happy? Angry? Figure out what emotions you're feeling and see if you can find out why you're feeling them. Personally, I need to journal in order to figure out why I'm feeling a certain way, but you also can do it in your head if that works best for you. Next, write down the things you need to do. A lot of times my stress comes from having everything I need to do stuck in my brain, so getting it onto paper helps let go of a lot of my stress. Once you know what you need to do, take a second to let those tasks leave your brain. You have it all on paper, so free up your brain for some new thoughts. Start thinking about what makes you happy, or what you're grateful for, or see if you can find a positive solution to a negative situation or emotion. Just get some positive, happy thoughts bubbling through that awesome little mind of yours.
During this, always remember that there is no such thing as a "bad" emotion. You need all your emotions to complete you as a person, and it's okay to be upset or angry. The next step is to understand why you're feeling that way and try and find a way to make you feel better. Just make sure that you never shame yourself for having a negative emotion. It's not a bad thing. We can't all be happy 100% of the time. I know for sure that I'm not, and a lot of people consider me to be "the positive person", so don't stress if you aren't loving everything all the time. All the emotions you feel are perfectly natural, so just let them happen.
After reading my tips for finding your calm you might be thinking, "Wow, that sounds great, but I just don't have the time!" Let me tell you: you definitely have the time. Maybe spend a few less minutes on your phone or Netflix and focus on yourself for a second. I promise you'll get a lot more out of a few minutes of focus on yourself than you'll get from looking at Snapchat stories. I like to take time at the very end of my day right before I go to bed, because I've finished everything I need to do and it helps me prepare to sleep. I know you have the time, so take advantage of it. I promise it will help make you happier and it will probably make you feel more motivated to do all the other things you need to do.
If you're still having trouble getting in tune with yourself and finding time to calm down, I would suggest a meditation app. I've been using the app Headspace for the past week or so before I go to bed, and it's really helped me wind down and get ready for bed (if we're being honest I've fallen asleep to it for the past three nights). It's super relaxing and it will definitely help you out if you need something more guided!
That's all I have for today, but in other news, I'm thinking about expanding a social media page for my blog! I set up a survey in the Feedback section, so if you take that it will help me find out if that would be effective. It'll help me know which platform(s) to post on and guide me on what types of posts people want to see.
Thanks so much for reading!! See ya later! <3