Hello my dudes!! I hope everyone's Thanksgiving break was awesome!! Today I want to talk a little bit about feeling beautiful and confident because it is something that is hard to feel 100% of the time.
So, feeling beautiful and confident. Even though they're two different things, I feel like they are pretty connected. Usually when you're feeling beautiful, you might also be feeling pretty confident, and vice versa. But I know it's definitely not how we're feeling all the time. There are lots of times where my self-confidence has plummeted because I don't like what I see when I look in the mirror. I'm sure you've probably felt that way too. And lets be honest-- it totally sucks. It sucks when you look in the mirror and don't appreciate what you see. It also sucks knowing that you're beautiful (because each and everyone of you are), but still not feeling like you are. I believe that knowing and feeling are two totally different things. For example, sometimes someone might compliment you and tell you that you look good, but it doesn't necessarily make you feel better. You know you're beautiful, but you don't feel that way. Don't get me wrong, most of the time a compliment goes a long way, but I've definitely had times where it just couldn't help.
So how can we fix this? How can we make ourselves feel more beautiful and confident? I don't know all the answers, because I'm definitely still trying to find this out myself, but I've noticed that there are some things I can do to help boost my confidence, so here they are!
Find something that makes you feel beautiful. This can be absolutely ANYTHING. Anything that makes you feel like the beautiful human that you are. For me, I feel the most beautiful right after I finish dance. Dancing helps me express myself, and I feel a lot better after doing it. So even though I leave the studio looking sweaty and gross, I feel beautiful because I've just done something that leaves me feeling happy. So if its a sport, hobby, or activity that makes you feel beautiful and confident, then do more of it!! Sometimes it can be a materialistic thing too. Personally, I don't feel very confident without makeup. But you know what? That is 100% okay. Of course, I would love to reach a point where I can go out without any makeup and still feel good about myself, but I'm just not at that point yet. So if you need to wear makeup to feel good, by all means go for it! I'm not saying that you should feel obligated to wear it, and I'm not saying that the only way you're beautiful is with makeup. But if makeup is something that helps you with your confidence, then wear it with no shame. Find what makes you feel beautiful, and do it often.
Listen to good music. Whenever I'm feeling sad, music never fails to improve my mood. Find songs that make you feel positive and happy, or find some good throwback jams, or turn on some music that you can dance your heart out too. Find something that puts you in a better mood. I like to dance around my room (especially to Beyonce) and I instantly begin to feel better about myself.
Do something outside of yourself. A lot of times just getting out of your head can make you feel better. Find something that you can do that can help benefit others. That can be something like volunteering, or even just hanging out and talking with a friend. Giving people advice is something that makes me feel better about myself because I'm impacting others. Even just interacting with other people (preferably face to face) can help you to get out of your head and begin to feel better.
Contradictorily, do something for yourself. Sometimes when I'm feeling down about myself I like to do things for myself. The biggest thing that helps me is journaling. I keep a journal and when I'm feeling upset I like to write positive entries to make myself feel better. It helps me to sort out my feelings and understand what's happening. I also like to blog when I'm feeling down, because honestly most of the things I blog about are things that I also need to hear. Just getting everything out can help improve your mood and lift the weight off your chest. Baths are also extremely healing and relaxing, and thats something you can do for yourself. I like to do a lot of skincare type things to help me feel better. Treat yo' self girl!!
Know that you're not alone. Guess what? Whatever bad or sucky feeling you're having right now, I can GUARANTEE someone else has felt that exact same way. Know that even though the way you're feeling isn't great, know that people are going through the same thing you are and YOU ARE NOT ALONE. There is something I like to think about a lot that makes me feel a lot better: do you ever see someone in the hall, or on the street, and think "hey, that girl/boy is really beautiful/handsome? Or do you see someone and think "wow their outfit is super cute" or "I wish I had hair like them" or something like that? Here's the cool thing: someone has thought that about you!!! So even if you aren't feeling your best, just know that someone probably thinks you look great. I find that idea really cool to think about.
Step away from the comparisons. This is hard. Really hard. You're probably jealous about someone. Maybe your best friend gets more attention than you, or maybe you think she's prettier, or she's so much skinnier than you, or she never has any acne. But you aren't your best friend. You aren't anyone besides the person you were made to be. Just because someone has more attention or different attributes than you, doesn't make them any better than you. I once saw a post that said something like, "Just because you're different doesn't mean you aren't beautiful. I think flowers and Christmas lights are both pretty and they look nothing alike." So just because you don't look exactly the same as someone you consider beautiful, doesn't mean you yourself aren't beautiful. You're both just beautiful in different ways. You don't need to compare yourself to anyone, because you aren't them, and you're perfect just the way you are.
Numbers don't define you. Guys, no number defines you. Weight, height, followers, likes, none of that really matters. If someone gets more likes on Instagram than you, that doesn't actually mean more people like them. It just means people exercised their thumbs a little extra to double tap on their picture. I know the numbers in your life might seem important, but they really aren't. The numbers don't make you happier. When you look back on your life are you going to think, "wow that day I got 250 likes on my post was one of the best days of my life."? I'm going to guess that the thought would be more like: "wow that one day me and my friends had a bonfire was one of the best days of my life." So don't get caught up on how many likes you got, or how much you weigh. Focus more on the memories and the things you feel beautiful doing. Those are the important things.
I love all of you so so much, and I want you to know that you are so beautiful and loved even when it doesn't seem like it. Focus on things that make you happy and make you feel great about yourself. LOVE YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU ARE SO WORTH LOVING!!!!
Thanks for reading! See ya later!! <3