Hello friends!! Today's topic is particularly important, especially for all my ladies out there. We're going to be talking about respect within relationships (all kinds, including the relationship you have with yourself) and why having mutual respect with others is so important. I'm also going to talk about a few other topics, but it will mainly be focused in on respect.
A few nights ago I had family in town and I was talking to my cousins fiancé. We stayed up until one in the morning talking about life and she gave me a lot of really amazing advice. The first thing she asked me when we staring talking was what I wanted to be when I grew up. After she asked me, I realized I literally have no idea what I want to do with my life. She told me that I need to find my passion. She told me to find something I'm interested in, grab hold of it, and make a career out of it. If you enjoy doing something, you can make that your career. Think about it: would you rather have a job you aren't very interested in, or would you rather have a job that you absolutely love? It seems like a no-brainer, but so many people end up in jobs that they hate. Don't let that happen to you. Find what you love and pursue it. It might seem scary, but if you truly love something it will be worth it. This helped me to realize that one of the things I really love to do is to write this blog. I realized that if I really love this and want to pursue it, I can do exactly that. Find what you love, and make it your future.
The second piece of advice she gave me is that I am capable of being the person I want to be. You can be anyone you want to be. Use that capability for good. You could either be a nice person or to be a mean person. Why would anyone choose to be the mean person? She told me that she was friends with someone who was super beautiful and one of the nicest people she had ever met. She wanted to start living her life like her. She wanted to be nice and caring towards everyone, so that's what she did. She decided to make a change and become the person she wanted to be. What I took away from this is to find a solid role model (or role models) and learn from them. This doesn't mean you should live exactly like them, but find the good qualities you love about people and apply them to yourself and your own life. There are so many people out there that you can learn from so take advantage of all the opportunities you have and use them to help you grow as a person. It is so important to have a role model in life that will help to inspire you to grow.
The third thing she told me is the most important one. She said, "no one will respect you more than you will respect yourself." This is so, so, SO important and I cannot stress this enough. You need to be the person who has the upmost respect for yourself. If you don't respect yourself, you can't expect to get respect from others. It is possible, but often rare. Think about how much respect you wish to receive from others, then respect yourself even more than that. People won't respect others that don't have respect for themselves. Hold yourself to high standards. Understand that you, my beautiful friend, are a gift. You deserve respect, not only from others but from yourself. You deserve respect, and you need to treat yourself with it. No matter what past decisions you've made, you are always, always, always worthy of respect. At any point in your life you can start living life the way you want to, and you can start giving yourself the respect you deserve.
This respect is so incredibly important when dealing with relationships. If you don't respect yourself it can be super easy to let people walk all over you. Understand that you deserve to be respected and you shouldn't have to deal with disrespect from someone. You have to let people know that you deserve respect and you can do that through respecting yourself. It's also very important to know your boundaries. You never ever have to do anything you are not comfortable with. Those boundaries are different for everyone because they are deeply personal. It doesn't matter what your boundaries are, so long as they are right for you. You and everyone else needs to respect those boundaries. This is especially important in boyfriend/girlfriend type relationships, although it is relevant to any relationship with anyone. You should never have to feel pressured into having to do something by another person. If you are feeling pressured, remind them of your boundaries, and if they disregard them, it probably means they aren't the best for you. Again, you never have to do anything you're uncomfortable with. I feel like this is easily forgotten in high school relationships. I'm fortunate enough to have someone in my life who respects my boundaries, and I respect his. Unfortunately, that's not the case for a lot of relationships. It's very easy to compromise your respect for yourself when in a relationship. A lot of times people feel that if they don't do something, even if it crosses their boundaries, then they might risk losing the person or the relationship. Although that might be sad, if someone doesn't respect your boundaries, do you really want to be with them? That's definitely a red flag for a relationship, and you need to be aware of it. Make sure that you aren't the one pushing someone else's boundaries either. Imagine how you would feel if someone did that to you. You wouldn't want that to happen, so don't be the reason it happens to someone else.
So guys, respect yourself. Respect others. Find your passion and pursue it. Be the person that you want to be. This is all I have for today, but before you go, I have some homework for you. If you want, I would advise you to check out Your Move. This is a inspirational TV series by Andy Stanley where he gives you advice on different aspects of life such as decisions, relationships, happiness, resolutions, and many other important topics. He does mini series' where he focuses in on a certain topic. I just finished watching one about decisions, and it really helped me a lot. This show has a religious aspect, but you don't need to be religious in order to benefit from what he has to say. Your Move has been inspiring me a lot a lately, so I want to share it with you. You can find the series on the Your Move app or at yourmove.is
Thank you guys so much for reading!! See ya later!! <3