HEY BOYS!! I'M BACK!! I've been so on and off lately, and I'm sorry about that. I thought summer would be pretty chill and I would have a ton of free time to write, but clearly that is not the case. Anyways, it was requested to write a blog post about liking a guy, so I would love to give you guys advice!! Let's get into it!!
The first thing to do when you like a boy is to listen to Beautiful Soul by Jesse McCartney. I'm not trying to be funny. Listen to it immediately. Does the guy you like make you feel like this song? If the answer is no, then girl forget about him!!! You deserve a boy who loves you for your soul. Your gorgeous looks are just an added bonus that would come with dating you. I actually want to go a little bit in depth about this because I think it's very important.
I think a lot of girls compromise things for a guy. They settle for less because they just want a boyfriend so badly. Wanting a boyfriend isn't a bad thing, but compromising who you are and what you want in order to have one is a bad thing. A lot of girls have an idea of what kind of guy they want. It doesn't necessarily mean we have a "type," it's just a list of characteristics we think are important. Looks play a part in that because, let's be honest, it would be difficult to date a guy who you aren't physically attracted to, but it's more than that. Personality plays a huge part. For example, maybe humor is important to you and you're looking for a guy who you can really joke around with. We all kind of have these list of characteristics and qualities that we want in a guy. I don't think we should have to compromise the things on our lists. I mean obviously don't rule out a guy only because he has a different hair color than was on your list or something dumb like that, but if something is important to you, like humor for example, don't date a guy who can't take a joke. You shouldn't have to compromise something that is important to you just so you can have a boyfriend. That was sort of all over the place but basically just don't settle for someone who doesn't have the qualities that are important to you. Of course, no one is going to be perfect because Troy Bolton only exists in the movies, but I'm sure you can find someone who is pretty close to what you're looking for.
The second tip is getting kind of personal, but never use your body to get a guy. I'm sure you guys know what I'm talking about, and I don't want to get too in depth incase there are younger girls reading this. But if a guy isn't willing to date you, using your body isn't going to change that. It'll just put you through way more emotional pain than you need. There's such a big "hookup" culture now and I honestly just hate that. You do you, but if you're looking for something serious, you aren't going to find it by hooking up with someone. Boys can be really gross sometimes, and if they don't need to put in emotional effort to get physical benefits, they just won't. It sucks, I know, but that's just how it is. I'm in no way shaming anyone for what they're doing, because it's their life and it has nothing to do with me. I'm just saying if you want a boyfriend, that probably isn't the best route. Another good rule of thumb is to never send anything over text or Snapchat or whatever other app you use that you wouldn't want your grandma to see. Keep it clean my dudes.
My last tip is do not lose yourself looking for a guy. I know there are some nights where a guy can just really destroy your feelings, and you need to eat a whole tub of ice cream and cry while binge watching New Girl. We've all been there and that's okay. But at the end of the day, know that it's not the end of the world. One guy doesn't determine your worth. Actually, no matter how many guys rip you apart and make you cry, it doesn't change your worth. Sometimes it's nice to just take a break from guys and just focus on yourself. Do what makes you happy. Hang out with your girls. Get motivated to eat healthy. Binge watch New Girl because you want to, not because you're sad about a boy. There are so many things in life that are way greater than the hot guy on the football team (cue Fifteen by Taylor Swift). Trust me. There is an endless list of things better than hot football guy. Plus, sometimes you can find guys when you aren't even looking. I know it sounds weird, but a while ago I really liked this guy and he didn't like me back. I tried so hard, and it just wouldn't work out. I decided I would just give up on guys, but 2 weeks later I was invited to WaHo in the middle of a football game by the same guy I've been dating for 7 months now. Things have a way of working out, so don't get too caught up in guys when there are so many better things to be worrying about. You're young, and you don't necessarily need to be searching for the perfect guy yet. Trust me, he'll come along. I didn't think so either, but you just gotta trust it.
Thanks for reading!! See ya later! <3