so there's this country song called "woman, amen" by dierks bentley and one of the lyrics is, "but i need all the cracks in my shattered heart, 'cause that's where her love gets in."
i was thinking about this a lot today and the concept of brokenness and what it means to be broken and how much brokenness is the right amount of brokenness and all sorts of things related to that.
everyone's broken. we've all had something that messed us up a bit. the depth of the brokenness varies based on the person and the situation, but all of us have a few cracks.
i think sometimes there's a misconception that you have to be majorly broken in order to understand what love is. there's a misconception that your story has to include a glorious comeback from something horrible in order to be valid. of course, there is so much bravery and strength in those stories, but that doesn't mean you need that deep brokenness to be able to have a triumphant story. your story is beautiful just as it is, and it's your own and incomparable to anyone else's.
i think the cool thing about the brokenness and the part i like about the song is that it's how we relate to each other. it requires vulnerability to reveal the cracks in your heart to others and we need empathy to respond to others.
i don't want to glorify brokenness, because it can be painful and full of hurting, and it's incredibly important to get help for the parts that are too difficult to get through alone. but we can also use brokenness for good. to help people who are experiencing what you have gone through. to understand the ones who need to be understood. to allow for an opportunity to flood love into each other. the beautiful thing about life is that we can just use all these messy things to come together and to love and to support one another.
no matter what brokenness you have felt, remember that its able to be used for something bigger than yourself. it's really late so this is starting to turn into a jumbled up mess, but in conclusion, be good to others by accepting their brokenness and by letting them accept yours. we all deserve to feel love throughout it all, no matter where we've been, where we are, or where we're going.
loved, deserving, worthy, beautiful. and broken. all of these things inside the beautiful human reading this, and in all the beautiful humans around you and across the globe. let people know that they are these things despite it all, and let it be known to you.