Hello my lovely ladies!!! Someone requested a post on boyfriends, so here we go!!
The first thing I want to say is that boys should never be something that cause you stress. Boys were not made to freak you out or make you question yourself. They were just made to be boys and to live their lives just like you were meant to do. I know it's easier said than done, but don't spend your whole life worrying about what so-and-so thinks of you, because it actually doesn't matter. If he likes you for you, then great, but if he doesn't, just let him go because you don't want to be with a guy who doesn't like you for you anyways.
If you want a relationship to work out long-term, then don't hide your personality from a guy. I mean yes, maybe you don't need to bring out your PowerPoint on why dogs are better than cats on the first date, but you also don't need to pretend to like cats for 6 months just because he does. You also shouldn't be afraid to do normal things, such as eating during a date. I don't know where the idea that girls shouldn't eat in front of boys came from, but I ate an entire full sized pizza on like my third date with my boyfriend, and he still likes me 10 months later, so I think it's going to be okay if you order a side of bread with your salad.
This is kind of turning into a what not to do article, but I believe these things are important so I'm going to keep going. My next piece of advice is not to do anything in hopes of getting a guy. What I mean by this is don't go into anything thinking, "Well, maybe if I do this he'll want to date me." PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE do not do this. I promise it won't lead to anything good. Boys can be pretty mean and gross, so if you decide that you're going to kiss a guy in hopes of getting him to date you, he's not going to see it the same way. I know that not all boys are like this, but most of them are just going to see you as the girl they can kiss without having to put in any emotional effort. I know that it's horrible, but just stay away from doing things in hopes that it will help you get a boyfriend. You shouldn't have to compromise anything for a boy.
Going off of that, you shouldn't feel pressured to have to do anything even after you're already dating. If you don't feel like you're ready to do anything with your boyfriend, then don't do it. Dating doesn't have any physical requirements. Do what you're comfortable with, but don't feel like you have to do anything just to keep your boyfriend. And honestly, if your guy feels the need to pressure you into doing something, then he's not right for you.
My last tip is to stop looking for a boyfriend. That sounds like I'm telling you to give up, but not looking for guys actually lead me to my boyfriend!! I had liked this guy for a few weeks, and after realizing he didn't like me back no matter how much effort I put in, I decided to just drop it. I stopped pursuing that guy because I knew it wasn't going to work out. I did the thing where I decided I'd swear off boys forever, but a week later at a football game my boyfriend asked me to go to Waffle House, I agreed, and we've gone on dates ever since. Sometimes guys are in the places you last expect them to be. I had only talked to my mans like twice in my life before going to WaHo with him (which now that I think about it, could have ended very badly) but as it turns out he's an amazing guy, and worth the wait.
I also want you guys to know that THERE IS NO RUSH. You will find someone. You don't need to find them now. No matter how old or young you are, you will have enough time to find someone. But remember that life isn't all about having a boyfriend. There is so much more to your life and your happiness than a guy, so don't let everything depend on finding one person to fulfill you. At the end of the day, YOU control your happiness. Not a boyfriend or anyone else. You are the only person who can fulfill you, so don't let anyone else take on that responsibility.
Having a boyfriend is great, but it's not what life is all about. My main goal of this blog is to remind you to respect yourself when it comes to guys. If you don't respect yourself, neither will a guy. Your self respect and sense of self-worth is so important, and don't compromise any of that for anyone. You are so valuable and worthy and important. Don't date a guy who doesn't see that in you. Be picky. Don't settle for anyone who doesn't respect you as they should.
I hope you guys enjoyed this article, and I hope it can help assure you that you can still thrive without one special guy in your life. :)
Thank you so much for reading!!! See ya later! <3