Hey guys! I hope everyone is having a great day! Today I wanted to talk about body image because it is something that is so so so important. It's something everyone struggles with (and if it's not something you're struggling with, please share your secrets on how you do it), including me. It's especially hard in this day and age, where everyday we are bombarded with pictures of these "perfect" men and women. Not only do we see images on every social media platform, but we see them in advertisements and we even hear about them in songs.
I'm pretty sure everyone already knows about how advertisements, social media, and music can negatively impact body image. We all know that a lot of those images are edited to reach this state of "perfection," so that's not something I want to focus on today. Instead I want to focus on how what we say about ourselves impacts our body image. This is probably going to be the most hypocritical thing I will ever write in my entire life, because I do and say all the things I'm about to talk about all the time, but that is how I know that it's something that needs to be discussed because it is something that directly impacts me.
All the time we say things that reflect negatively about the way we look. Personally, I use phrases such as, "ew I look so crusty!" or "omg I look like an egg!" No matter what negative comments we choose to say, they are all impacting us. It seems like we are unable to appreciate the features we like about ourselves because we are so focused on what makes us look "bad." Whenever I take pictures with my friends, at least one of us dislikes the picture because of the way we look in it. We go straight to looking at the things we don't like about the picture. We start to pick apart ourselves until we become a collection of flaws instead of the beautiful people that we are. We are not defined by a picture. We are all full, complete, and beautiful people that are here on Earth to do such great things. How can we pick ourselves apart like that so quickly? How can we allow ourselves to pour that much hatred on our own selves? Notice that I am saying "we." That's because I think these exact thoughts when I look at myself in pictures. I know that I am a beautiful and that I am defined by more than just a picture (just like all of you), yet I still do this to myself.
So my goal for you guys and for myself is this: next time you take a picture, look in the mirror, or are looking back at old pictures, instead of thinking "ew my nose looks so big" or "ugh I'm breaking out so badly," look at the picture and find at least one thing (if not more!) that you like about it. I feel like nowadays, if you say that you look good in a picture, you are viewed as being conceited. Does anyone else feel like this? It feels like we are shamed for being able to appreciate ourselves and our looks. I even notice that if I tell someone they look good they immediately defend themselves and begin to make a case about why they DON'T look good. It makes me so upset because that means they either can't see their true beauty, or that they feel as if they can't accept the compliment.
It's so upsetting that we feel we can't admit to feeling beautiful. It's even more upsetting that we can't see our true beauty. I know that each and every person on this Earth is beautiful and is born to do amazing things. We need to remember that fact. Know that you are beautiful. Know that you are amazing. Of course, be humble about your beauty, but know that it is there. I wish that telling people that they are beautiful would automatically make them feel that way, but I know that is not how it works. I can only hope that we can begin to move away from insulting ourselves, and that we can begin to recognize how truly amazing we are. Try and see if you can catch yourself and your friends saying negative things about themselves, and remind them to think more positively about their image. A huge part of our body image comes from what we think about ourselves, so I can only hope that limiting our negative thoughts and comments about it can help us start to realize how beautiful we truly are. LOVE YOURSELF AND OWN YOUR BEAUTY.
Stay beautiful!!! <3 See ya later!