Hey guys! Today I wanted to talk about holding a high appreciation for ourselves. This is something that is very important, especially when you are building relationships with other people. It is important to hold a high respect for yourself and your body. Knowing your worth and having appreciation is key to having relationships with people. Today I mainly want to focus on how this is important with boyfriend/girlfriend type relationships, but I might focus on the importance of this with other types of relationships later on.
I can not stress enough about how important it is to know your worth and to know what you're comfortable with before being in a relationship. First off, you need to respect who you are. Before getting into a relationship you need to respect and love yourself fully and completely. Without you being able to do that for yourself, how can you expect someone else to do that for you? This is not to say that if you don't love/appreciate yourself that no one else will love or appreciate you, because someone does. The reason I'm saying this is because you need to set your standards high. You all deserve to have the best, so if you realize how much you deserve and how much you are worth, then it will be easier for you to realize when other people aren't treating you the way you should be treated. It will help you find someone who gives you the love that you deserve.
Second, make sure you know your boundaries. I know this will make me sound like a parent, but this truly is important. You never want someone to pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do. Don't feel like you ever need to change yourself or disrespect yourself because that's what someone else wants you to do. Usually if someone is pressuring you into doing something, then that can be a sign that they probably aren't the right one for you.
That being said, your boundaries are your own. They will probably be different than your friend's, and that is okay. As long as you are comfortable with what you are doing, and as long as what you are doing is safe (and legal!!), then it is okay for you. Boundaries are about doing what is right for you as an individual. People face a lot of pressure about what they should and should not do, but in the end, it all comes down to what you feel is right. And remember how important these boundaries are. You shouldn't have to feel pressured into doing something you don't feel comfortable with. And if this person is right for you, they will respect you and what you are comfortable with.
So know your worth. Know your boundaries. Take a second to think about what it is that you want in a relationship and make sure that the person you want to have the relationship with respects you and what you are comfortable with. Don't let anyone make you feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to do, because in the end, it all comes down to the fact that you have a say in what happens within a relationship.
This can be hard to do, because your emotions will definitely cloud your judgement. You might find yourself making excuses as to why the person is right for you even when they're really not. Make sure you think about what it is you want and what your boundaries are before you even give yourself the opportunity to be in a situation you might feel uncomfortable in. Remember that your boundaries can and probably will change at any given moment. You might find yourself uncomfortable in a situation that you used to feel comfortable in, and thats okay. Let the people around you know that you're uncomfortable, and if they are a good friend/boyfriend/girlfriend, they will understand.
I know this discussion has been pretty general today, but hopefully you all understand what I am trying to say. If you are with the right person, you should NEVER feel pressured into doing something you are uncomfortable with. You are deserving of the upmost love and respect, so don't accept anything less!! I love you all and I hope this advice can help you guys to make the decisions that make sense for you.
Thanks for reading!! See ya later!!